Secrets of Flirting Over Text
Because SMS messaging is a fairly new concept, many of us have never been shown the secrets to texting a girl. So naturally, most guys surely blow it comes time to craft the perfect message.
Most guys misjudge the reason that a woman seems to quickly lose interest in them. One of the biggest reasons a man will lose a woman’s interest is over during the “phone game.”
Texting girls is something that any guy can learn. But it takes practice, knowledge, and the ability to recognize what kind of messaging women respond to.
In order to figure out what kind of SMS attract a woman and keep her liking you, you must first realize what proper messaging should be used for.
Usually, a man will be using his phone for one of three purposes:
He is trying to make an initial contact after meeting her out somewhere.
He just wants to keep himself in the girl’s mind until the next time he sees her.
He is using texting to escalate his relationship with the woman to a more playful or sexual level.
In a minute, I’m going to talk about how to text girls the right way… but first, I want to talk about some of the big mistakes you might be making with your cell phone.
Once you overcome these errors, it will be a lot easier for you to reach your “phone game” goals.
Mistake #1: Sending a boring message serves no point. These sort of messages include; “How you doing?” or “What”s going on?” Texts like these DO NOT distinguish you from the hundreds of other guys that are also messaging the woman you’re talking to.
Mistake #2: The second big mistake is messaging a girl too much and too often. SMS messages should be used in limited doses in order to create mystery, suspense, and intrigue. If you are texting women all the time, they will stop looking forward to your messages.
Mistake#3: The final mistake guys make is they try to have a conversation over SMS. Messaging shouldn’t be used as a way to get to know a girl.
Some other big blunders texting women:
Always messaging her back too quickly and appearing needy
Trying too hard to get her to like you
Letting the woman control the flow of messaging (ie. Is she always the one to end it??)
Not getting playful,”flirtatious,” or sexual in your messages
Every message you send should have some type of playfulness and flirtation. You should always aim to demonstrate a fun side of your personality every time you are texting her.
During the first few messages you are just trying to show her that you can be fun and social around girls. Your texts should always present the impression that you live a fun and adventurous life.
Stay light and playful, then jump into serious topics, and then back to being playful and flirtatious.
The technique is to banter with the girl back and forth and leave the interaction on a high note, by either stop texting her back, or by finishing it with a message like “talk later…”
It is also important to display small chunks of your personality in these messages, and avoid being boring like the plague.
This means you never make statements like “I’m bored,” or if she ask what you’re up to texting “Nothing special.”
Instead answer by being interesting, playful, and intriguing when SMS with a woman.
Now lets talk more about what to say to a woman to make her want you.